我們說服自己,在結婚之後,生活會變得更好, 或者在有小孩之後,又或者在另一件事發生之後,生活就會改善。然而另我們感到沮喪的是,孩子們還沒長大獨立,也許長大後會更讓自己滿意。
之後,我們很挫折要去處理青少年的種種問題。也許當他們離開青少年階段時,我們就會高興了。我們告訴自己,當另一半更成長時、當我們得到一輛更好的車時、當可以去度假的時候、當我們退休之後……生活會變得更好。
事實是,要快樂,沒有比「現在」更好的時間了。
如果不是當下,到底要等到甚麼時候?
你的生活將永遠充滿不同的挑戰。
最好去承認接受這個事實,並決定無論如何都要快樂。
阿弗雷德(Alfred D. Souza)曾說:
「有很長一段時間,我覺得新生活即將要開始了—真正的活著的那種生活。但總是有一些障礙,總是還有一些事情要處理,像是未完成的業務,需要付出的時間,或需要償還的債務。我總認為處理完這些事務後我的生活才會開始。 最後,我突然想到這些障礙就是我的生活。」
這觀點幫助我看見一件事:沒有一條路會通往幸福快樂的人生。 因為幸福就是道路本身。
所以,珍惜每一刻,珍惜你擁有的一切,珍惜那位特別到能夠與你共度時光的特別的人,並記住時間不會為任何人停留。
所以,停止等待,不要等到你減去了五公斤之後,不要等到你有了孩子之後,不要等到你的孩子離家之後,不要等到你開始工作或退休之後,不要等到你結婚或者離婚之後,不要等到春天、夏天、冬天…. 別再等了,沒有比現在更好的時間來讓自己快樂。
幸福是一個旅程,不是一個目的地。
像你不需要顧忌錢一樣地去作讓你快樂的工作,
像你從來沒有受傷過那樣地盡情去愛,
像沒有人在旁觀看那樣隨心而舞!
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough, and we’ll be more content when they are.
After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire.
The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until winter, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink…. there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Work like you don’t need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.
作者:Crystal Boyd
編譯:7flow
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