關係是終極的瑜伽
最健康的關係和友誼不一定是人們肉眼所看起來的「幸福」。 他們不一定總是在社交軟體上手牽著手，親暱談笑，共舞歡唱，美好到好像總有蝴蝶在四周飛舞，好像永遠不會出錯，好像愛情是這樣美麗，幸福和完美。 表面上的「完美」可以輕易掩蓋本質的衰敗、喪失連結，以及那可怕的，沒被說出口的，對自由的迫切渴望。
誠實的關係
最健康的關係是誠實的關係。表面上，他們可能看起來並不那麼「快樂」或「無憂無慮」。他們可能不符合人們認為關係所「應該」或「必須」看起來的感覺。 在這樣的關係裡，即使有時候陳述真相是令人不安的，兩個人仍誠實地告訴彼此今天所發生的事情，並有意識地不斷放開對過去的彼此所有先入為主的看法。這種關係得以在「真實」的熔爐裡持久更新。當然，還是有可能會有破裂，誤解，甚至是強烈的懷疑和失去連結的感覺，但面對這種混亂局面，他們有共同的意願去面對這混亂，睜開眼睛去看見當前的破裂，而不是迴避或執著於過去。他們會願意一起坐在破碎的夢想和期望之中，努力在這裡，在現在，在今天找到重新連接的方法。
愛是鮮活的
在這裡，關係被視為終極的瑜伽 — 持續不斷加深的冒險和重新發現彼此，不斷的放手和不斷的相遇！愛不是一個在未來的目的地，不是結局，不是能夠被到達的終點，也不是一個很輕易能分享給別人炫耀的故事。愛是鮮活的。活生生的。
正如埃克哈特·托勒（Eckhart Tolle）所說，人與人之間的關係並不是為了讓我們幸福—因為真正的幸福是存在於我們自己的內在。他們在這裡是為了我們深刻地保持覺知和有意識地活著。他們是來打破我們，使我們謙卑，使我們重新變得完整。
RELATIONSHIP ~ THE ULTIMATE YOGA~~
The healthiest relationships and friendships are not necessarily the ones that look happiest to the naked eye.
They aren’t necessarily the ones where two people are always found holding hands, giggling, dancing and singing with the butterflies on Instagram, where nothing ever goes wrong and love is beautiful and blissful and perfect.
External ‘perfection’ can easily mask internal devastation, disconnection and that awful, unspoken desperation to be free.
The healthiest relationships are the honest ones. And they might not look so ‘happy’ or ‘carefree’ from the outside. They might not fit the image of what a relationship ‘should’ or ‘must’ look or feel like.
Here, two people tell the honest, painful truth about today, and continually let go of all their preconceived ideas about each other. The relationship is forever renewed in the furnace of authenticity. There may be ruptures, misunderstandings, even intense feelings of doubt and disconnection, but there is a mutual willingness to face this seeming mess head-on! To look – with open eyes – at the present rupture, and not turn away or cling to the past. To sit together in the midst of mutual shattered dreams and expectations, and work to find a place of reconnection, here, now, today.
Here, relationship is seen as the ultimate yoga – an ongoing and ever-deepening adventure and rediscovery of each other, a constant letting-go and a constant meeting! Love is not a future destination, conclusion, point of arrival, or a convenient story to tell others. Love is alive.
As Eckhart Tolle says, relationships aren’t here to make us happy – for true happiness lies within. They’re here to make us profoundly conscious.
To break us, to humble us, to make us whole again.
作者：Jeff Foster
編譯：7flow
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